Changsheng: Peak at the Beginning

Chapter 1464 My Altay 11

Although Token is a traditional woman with little education, she has been exposed to the outside world and grew up in a different environment from the elders. It can be seen that Mrs. Ba is very interested in Xu Qin.

Originally from her point of view, she wished that Mrs. Ba could catch up with Xu Qin immediately, so that she could be more certain of getting a divorce and taking away the two children.

But as a woman, she deeply understood that Ba Tai was not worthy of Xu Qin.

Xu Qin is a top student who studied at a university in the capital. Although no one knows why she came back to this place, seeing her mingling with the crowd to ask if there are any inconveniences and hoping that the situation can be improved as soon as possible, it is obvious that she wants to do something for everyone.

Such people are worthy of admiration in themselves.

Batai's only advantage is his good looks. He is indeed a rare handsome man in this area, but compared with Murati, he is just a little better tempered, does not drink alcohol, and has a decent job. He is not worthy of Xu Qin at all.

At lunch, the men and women sat separately. Xu Qin was smart and could understand and speak Kazakh, Mongolian, and even Arabic very quickly, so she naturally started chatting with Token's family.

Token's mother said to Xu Qin, "It's not that we don't love our children. Sulitan is too stubborn. He won't agree to Token taking the two children away. Besides, there are no divorced people in our family yet. It's embarrassing and people will definitely talk about it."

Xu Qin said: "Society is developing and the times are progressing. There are fewer people getting divorced now, but in a few years, there will be more people getting divorced. There is really nothing to be ashamed of."

"But I also understand that you're worried that Token can't take care of herself and her two children. If she gets married again, you're also worried that she'll meet someone who's not good to her and her two children. But there are a lot of job openings in the city right now. Even if the person Token remarries isn't a good person, she can still find a job to support herself."

"Besides, it will be more convenient for the two children to go to school in the city. Even if they can't get into college, they will have seen the world and it will be easy for them to find any job."

There were many elements in Xu Qin's words, and it took the women in the room a while to react before they finally understood.

Everyone looked at Xu Qin's smiling face and didn't know whether they should believe her words. But they had to say that whether it was Token's work or the two children's future studies and work, what Xu Qin said made sense.

Token's mother's sister couldn't help but ask Xu Qin, "Do you Han people often get divorced?"

Xu Qin said truthfully: "We Han people will not easily choose divorce. After all, marriage is not only a matter between two men and women, but also a matter between two families."

All the women in the room agreed with Xu Qin's words, and some even said that although the Han people had many different customs from them, they also had some similarities.

Xu Qin nodded and continued, "However, the best thing about us Han people is that if a man and a woman can't live together anymore, they can choose to divorce, and remarriage will not be affected. This has been around since ancient times and is not uncommon."

After that, Xu Qin gave everyone some popular science about the divorce letters in the Tang Dynasty, and the story in the Song Dynasty where the husband was not doing well and the father-in-law adopted his daughter-in-law as an adopted daughter and sent her off to marry as a member of her family. All the women in the room felt that the Han people were really amazing and they had learned so much!

The men in the next room stopped talking and listened to Xu Qin talking about the ancient Han people. Xu Qin noticed that the men next door had fallen silent, so he didn't mind saying a few more words:

"In my opinion, the nomadic tradition of inheritance has almost only two purposes: first, to preserve the family's property; second, to preserve the family's population."

"In the past, herders had very poor risk tolerance. If the weather changed a little, the family property would suffer huge losses. So divorce was simply not an option, otherwise it would be even more difficult for the whole family to survive."

"But the situation has changed now. The conditions for herders to graze have improved a lot. More importantly, in addition to herding, herders have other ways to make money, so some customs can be negotiated accordingly."

Token's mother had heard Token say he wanted a divorce for a long time and understood that Token was determined, but Sulitan was difficult to convince, so Token did not leave.

At this moment, she put down her spoon, moved closer to Xu Qin, and asked in a low voice, "Then what should we do to make Sulitan agree to divorce with her child?"

Token also looked at Xu Qin nervously. She really wanted to live her own life. She really couldn't see any hope in this family.

Xu Qin thought for a moment and said, "Sulitan hopes that Yeldana and Nadira will always be the children of this family, but if Token takes the two children away and remarries, things may get unpredictable in the future."

Token held back his tears and said anxiously, "But I really can't let Yeldana and Nadira stay here!"

Xu Qin patted Token's hand to comfort her, "According to our Han customs, even if a couple divorces, their children are always their children. Even if the parents remarry and have other children, the situation will not change."

But the customs of nomadic peoples such as the Kazakhs and the Mongols are different. If Token remarries with her two children, her two children will become the adopted sons of her new husband and will be separated from Sulitan's family.

Token didn't want to explain that they had such a custom, and Xu Qin didn't point it out either, but continued, "So I think you have to promise Uncle Sulitan that Yeldana and Nadira will only be their children. When you divorce, you have to ask Uncle Sulitan and Batai to pay child support on behalf of the two children's deceased father."

"You should also tell Yeldana and Nadira that although their father passed away early, their grandfather and uncle have never forgotten their father's responsibility. It is best to let the two children meet Uncle Sulitan and Batai frequently, so as not to let their relationship become alienated."

Token cried with joy and immediately agreed to do as Xu Qin said.

Batai on the other side also said: "Even if my sister-in-law takes Yerdana and Nadira away, they are still Murati's children. I am their uncle. I will take care of them on behalf of Murati, no matter where they go."

Sulitan thought it was ridiculous, but Grandpa Xu said, "We Han people do have such customs. Blood ties cannot be severed no matter what. If you are worried that your grandchildren will become estranged from you, you might as well follow my granddaughter's advice. If you pay for them, you will definitely gain something in return."